Blogpost 2: "Love is a Huge Feeling"

Whenever you’re in love with someone, of course its feels so wonderful, you’re happy, excited, active, inspired, it seems everything is so perfect. Even a cockroach jumps over your face, a spaceship lands on your lawn, or even you’ve been swallowed by a dinosaur (just kidding) but the fact is whatever happens doesn’t matter for you as long as you are floating in area of love. Isn’t that love is so powerful? But yet, just a little conflict with that thing you called love, it could ruin all of these wonderful feelings. Your perfect beautiful aura could turn into the most disaster, cruel, awful feeling ever, might be more painful than being swallowed by a dinosaur.   

As I said from the title: Love is a huge Feeling. Because for me, whenever you’re in or out of love, you can almost feel all of the kinds of feelings, you can be happy, yet you’ll feel sad and upset, you can be excited about everything, then yet you’ll feel afraid then you can be wonderful and inspired, then yet you’ll feel loser and miserable, and more.

One article that I've red entitled, "The Surprising Health Effects of Love" by Laura Schwecherl in greatist.com All of what our brain thought of a good and positive things could also be good in our heart literally. They have one study about the difference of people who are with their love and people who are with someone else. and the result were the couples has lower blood pressure than with people who are with ordinary people because they have different feelings for each other to be more familiar and comfortable. She said that "Love isn’t all about the butterflies. There are chemical processes in the brain that affect how we feel. When we’re with a significant other, the body releases hormones, like oxytocin and dopamine, that signal feelings of trust, pleasure, and reward." 

Maybe even me, I'll be more comfortable to with someone that I love than with someone who's just ordinary for me. Which that means our brain evaluated these good things that leads us to feel great and also leads our heart to feel good which is good to our heart.

But as I said earlier, falling in love is wonderful but could also be horrible. From the other article entitled, “Why Does Love Hurt When It Goes Bad?” by Jessica Dawson in lovepanky.com Said that the most common emotions that get associated with love when it’s going bad are fear, anger, helplessness, loneliness and jealousy. Which are the usual things we feel when we’re broken-hearted. And even a bad relationship can cause very stressful, getting easily tired of everything, loses your focus on other parts of your life, looking for more ways to feel worst or miserable by hurting yourself, in emotionally: you tend to remember the bad things repeatedly instead of moving on, and hurting yourself physically, maybe that’s why there are these people that we called “emo” who attempts suicide by slicing a wound in their wrist using blades. Jessica Dawson said that “Love can hurt a lot emotionally. But almost always, love blends with other emotions that add to the painful sensation; it can hurt just as much as physical pain.”

For me, it is natural to be hurt because of love, maybe it is really part of our life to learn more in our life, to be more prepared for the next story of our love life. Committing suicide is the dumbest thing that people do to solve their problems, besides from money, love is one of the reason why. But it doesn’t helped them at all. Maybe if they just worked hard to earn money. And about being broken-hearted, there is always a one reason to solve it. It’s by moving on. Everyone knows that it’s always an option but they just don’t want to try, instead they choose to let their self drowning in pain. And maybe it’s another reason why there are people who are having obsessions.

And too much love can kill you. From the article I’ve red entitled, “Falling in Love Drives you mad” by Psychiatrist Donatella Marazziti, of the University of Pisa, in news.bbc.co.uk The sayings “love can drive you crazy” is quite literal, it is wonderful to be in love and to be loved, but too much love is not that wonderful anymore. Everything that becomes too much is bad. This article said that obsession can affect your brain which can also affect people’s mood that could even also affect the whole you. Isn’t that creepy that there’s someone who’s obsessed with you that he/she will kidnap you and will force you to marry him/her even you don’t like that person? I think it’s not impossible to happen since I’ve seeing movies that has that scene. Donatella Marazitti said that,“Falling madly in love may really make you mentally ill and this mental illness called obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) that sufferers experience nagging, anxious thoughts and feel compelled to repeat tasks such as washing their hands and tidying up. In 1990, Dr Marazziti found OCD was linked to lower levels of the brain chemical serotonin, which affects people's moods.”

Love is a huge feeling, it’s the strongest one, the most powerful, may be the most wonderful but could also be the most dangerous. Falling in love is the most amazing thing that we could ever felt, especially when that person whom that we love is having the same feelings for us. If we they broke our heart, let’s get up, make up your mind and move on, look for someone who’s better might be the right person than before. But remember that love is also dangerous, can kill you with depression, or can literally drive you crazy. Let’s spread the love, share it with someone who deserves it but always spare a love for yourself too.